Control and responsibilty

There is a vein of paradox that runs through our lives -- free will versus predetermination. With control comes responsibility. The rule is: if one wants control, one has to take responsibility, otherwise things go horribly wrong. If one cannot step up to it of their own volition, they need inspiration. That is why Avatars appear from time to time to point the way. But they can only offer a helping hand, and provide an example. Free will demands 'no one can do for you what you must do for yourself'.

Revelation while watching the LOST Finale

Dying is not the worst thing that can happen to you. Being unloved is. And that comes from not having love in your heart. If you don't, you can't share it with anyone. That makes the only real tragedy in life to inability to participate in that give and take. To give love is the greatest gift of life.